Having a Conversational Relationship with God

by Sally Jo Gilbert de Vargas

Is it possible to have a conversational relationship with God? You have probably already guessed that not only do I believe it is possible but that I also believe it is the most preferable relationship one might have with God! Humankind is invited to cultivate a develop a personal, intimate relationship with God.

God is always so very close to us, but we continually turn away from Him, forget Him, and consider ourselves self-sufficient. So, how can we accomplish a genuine consciousness of God and become closer to God? One way is to talk to God continually in our heart and mind. Describe how we are struggling, what we need, and where we are confused. Yes, the All-Knowing God already knows these things about us, but do we know them? Have we admitted to ourselves where we are falling short, and what is hindering us on the path? When I step on my prayer rug, I consider it an invitation to enter into this intimate conversation with God, and God alone.

Yes, I love reciting scriptural verses and finding words of praise and thanksgiving to offer. That part always seems easy to me. But what about my heartaches? What about my feelings of depression, anger, fear, and shame? Dare I offer these to God? Dare I admit that I have been disappointed, frightened, jealous, betrayed? Can I bring to God a sound heart? Only if I am honest about what is entrapping me in the world, what is pulling me away from His majesty and glory, what is causing me to forget the Presence of my Sustainer and Cherisher. When I confront these contradictions honestly, it becomes an intimate conversation. And when inner quietude follows the pouring out of emotion, that is when I may be graced with a reply from the Most High. When I ask forgiveness and forbearance, when I recognize my shortcomings, tears and even laughter may come, just as they would with my nearest and dearest friends in the world. This is not only natural, it is absolutely essential if we are to have an honest, intimate, evolving relationship with the Most Gracious and Most Merciful.

A spiritual teacher of mine, Jamal Rahman, has taught me a spiritual practice which I often use to deepen my intimate connection with God, in addition to my conversations on the prayer rug. It apparently originated with the poet Jalaluddin Rumi, and it is called, “I heard your sighs.”

Here it is:

Spend some time writing down all the feelings and thoughts associated with a difficult situation or painful emotional state, such as sadness, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or resentment. It doesn’t have to be a dramatic situation. Write down all that you are feeling.

After writing your feelings down, touch your heart and be silent, making the intention to be in touch with your Higher Self. Focus on the breath, and enfold the Heart. Make an intention to connect with the Divine Heart within the human heart.

Then, write a response to yourself, beginning with the words, “Dear One, This is your Beloved speaking. I have heard your sighs and cries, and I want to tell you….” Then finish the letter, allowing your Higher Self to speak freely.

You will be amazed at what comes forth when you practice this with sincerity. I can tell you with inner certainty, this practice deepens and enhances our relationship with God, our Most Intimate Friend and Guide.

(Sally Jo Gilbert de Vargas is a retired public school educator and is currently an Associate Minister at Interfaith Community Sanctuary in Seattle, Washington, USA. She is active with various organizations working for interfaith harmony, climate justice, racial justice, and voting rights.)